A Life To Love

Hello there.

My name is Xavier. In the topsy-turvy world of Pick-Up, some know me as “hide“.

It all started in July 2007. Back then, my lifestyle was about as exciting as watching a blank television screen. I had just gotten out of a 30-month relationship with a wonderful woman who I have an amazing friendship with until today. I was in the army with the oddest working-hours that included compulsory weekend duties, which kinda killed the possibility for having a social life. But that was okay, since I didn’t exactly have many friends anyway. When it came to my romantic life… well, I’d love to tell you more but it was non-existent. I had a better chance of calculating faster than a calculator than to have any success with the ladies.

Me and the closest I got to women when I was 20

After about 2 months of feeling miserable and realising that my Xbox wasn’t really listening to my problems, I decided to take measures to get myself out of this rut.

I took an interest in the social arts. I read, tried and tested almost everything I read locally as well as in different parts of the world like Spain, Italy, China, Hong Kong, Australia, Indonesia, Vietnam, Thailand and Manila. I underwent intensive-training with my mentor, Troy (http://www.troydizondating.com/), the undisputed top-instructor of Charisma Arts when he was there. I’ll admit that even up till today, I feel that I am still learning something every other moment… and I find that that’s a good thing. I am also an active participant in the Singapore Public Lair and Singapore Private Lair, where I am the leading authority on meeting women in an Honest and Natural way (Natural Game).

I have been in that rut where nothing in life is beautiful and no one seemed to care if I was alive or not. The romance and love I craved so badly looked an impossible distance away, to a point where I even thought that it was just not going to happen anymore. Life was incredibly miserable. I was lonely, I was helpless and I really dreaded each and every day that was coming my way. I hated that.

More than anything, I hated the fact that when it came to women, I was never sure. I was never sure if they liked me, if I stood a chance, if they wanted to kiss me, hold my hand… everything. I was never sure of anything. This frustrated me to no end! I hated that. I wanted to never feel that way again because it was frustrating and it ate into my core as a person.

Me when I was in the army

Thankfully, I found a solution.

I was able to not only find a way out, but to attain a lifestyle that was beyond my dreams.

Dating-wise, I have come from a place of inferiority and scarcity to a place of endless possibility. My personal philosophy when it comes to meeting women is to give them what they want in the first place. With this mindset, I have been blessed to have had quality relationships with amazing women who have made undeniable positive impact to my life and I hope that I have been able to do the same for. If you women are reading this, my heartfelt gratitude goes out to all of you for the experiences that I have learnt so much from. I will not be where I am at without any of you. And I still love Van Houten Almond chocolates -hint hint-.

Welcome to my life… Today.

A little bit of who I am today

Today, I am proud to have acquired an impressive track record. I am the first and only born-and-bred in Singapore Dating Coach to achieve INTERNATIONAL status under the global organization, Troy Dizon Dating. This has allowed me the opportunity to coach and train people from all over the World. Apart from the Asian clients from Malaysia, Thailand, Hong Kong, and China, I have trained men from Australia, Europe and America as well.

HERWORLD Magazine, May 2010

My success and that of my clients spread. The media got wind of my success and soon began to feature me in a few projects. I appeared on Straits’ Times’ RazorTV, doing live-pick up and also coaching a journalist and producing results in record timing. I was also featured in a program on Channel News Asia, “Love, Marriage and Sex in the City”. Along with dating coaches from India and Japan, I was the featured dating coach for Singapore and was the only coach whose student attained success.

My success has also seen me gain respect on the Global stage. My site, A Life To Love (http://alife2love.com) is ranked the #1 Singaporean Dating Coach Site and one of the top in Asia according to The Seduction List, PUAWorld.org and PUAgathering.com.

All this success lead to to conduct possibly the biggest project that any date-coaching company has ever taken part in : A Date Coaching course called Foundations Of Attraction for the Ministry Defence of Singapore.

Foundations Of Attraction for MINDEF

As the Official Lead Instructor for TDD in Singapore and Asia, I have given talks and private training to men from all walks of life… and am glad to say that virtually ALL my clients have experienced a positive change in their dating lives. The successes of my clients really inspires me to keep doing my job, it gives me a sense of satisfaction unlike any other. Giving advice and coaching has become more than just work, it is my passion and I love what I do.

Giving a seminar at Vivocity

Some clients want to date multiple women, some want to be able to find that one special girl in their lives. I am not one to judge, I just take great pride in being trusted and being able to help them achieve their desired goal. I want to help men develop themselves into MEN that their women, friends and families can be proud of.

Filming for Channel News Asia's "Love, Sex & Marriage"

What I write about may be controversial but I am going to tell it to you the way it should be told. I am not like your typical dating coach from other companies, teaching you re-hashed stuff based on concepts from the pioneer PUAs. I have been through courses by other coaches as well and the reason why I came out on my own is because to put it bluntly, most them them really suck.In fact, having come from the PUA background, I deem it as… how can I put it nicely… retarded.

I may come across as arrogant, in your face. I am well aware of that. Say what you want about my clients and me, but real credibility cannot be denied. I have gone through a multitude of experiences since 2007 to get to where I am today and more than anybody, I feel that I understand the challenges men faced during this self-improvement stage. This is why I am good at what I do and have such a high success rate when it comes to coaching my clients.

I don’t tell you what you want to hear, I tell you what you NEED TO HEAR. I talk about what matters, the good and bad sides of dating, natural sexual desires and if I am feeling hardcore, I talk about Star Wars. Some of you will hate me, some of you will love me. Either way, I will always say what needs to be said.

I look forward to getting in touch with you soon, dear reader.

Live and Love,

Xavier “hide”

TDD Instructor for Singapore & Asia

xav@troydizondating.com

http://alife2love.com/

Skype : xavierrrr