My apologies to all Captain Planet fans for shamelessly using that catchy slogan. I must say, forums rock. They provide a big insight into the issues faced by the average Singaporean male when it comes to dating and this really gives me an avenue to help people out to express my thoughts.
When I am coaching clients, before I even jump into my lessons, I do something we call the Self-Assessment Exercise. Expressing yourself is an important part of an interaction and relationship and to be good at that, you have to know yourself. From who you want to be to who you are right now.
I have been in your shoes before. Years ago, I was obese, socially-clueless and insecure. Not only did I have issues when it came to meeting women (I only had 2 who actually bothered about my existence… or so I hope), when I actually stumbled upon a chance to meet women, I would make an excuse and not turn up, or just ruin my own chances by being too scared to talk to a woman. I would down drinks like I was an alcoholic Speed Racer and visit the toilet constantly to hide.
I won’t lie, my life really sucked. I was depressed and viewed myself as pathetic. I really hated the rut that I was in and after years of emo-ing, I realised that I was the cause of all this. My perception of myself and the world around me dictated my way of life. And it struck me one day : If I had the power to create this depressing lifestyle, I had the power to CHANGE it as well.
I started taking active steps towards improving on the only thing that I could work on at that moment : MYSELF. I watched my diet, worked out, pursued passions and dreams. By doing this alone, I became naturally attractive. I oozed of a zest for life, a positive energy and charisma. I came to love myself for all my achievements (which I realised, I had more than I thought… I felt like I found a stash of “secret awesomeness”!) and the effort I put into life and. After I learned the art of being naturally attractive to women, everything just started clicking. The steps I have taken towards changing my life have taken me to my destination!
My point is, nothing is going to come in if you keep your door closed. You have to start opening yourself up to life and its experiences. Only you have the power to allow yourself to enjoy life and its pleasures. You can choose to still brood and emo over your current situation, or you can make a decision TODAY to get this handled by reading articles, getting educated on this topic and interacting with women online or in real-life.
The ball is in your court, Player
In other news, we are finally on Facebook and there are some updates regarding our seminar on the 28th of February 2009, including the official release of our free Pre-Seminar e-Booklet. Details here.
I’ll be out of town until the 15th of February 2009 so I won’t be posting for a bit, but hopefully, I can sneak in one last article before I go! Check this space or my parent site, Dating Singapore, for my Valentine’s Day related article!
Live and Love