It’s been a while! I am managing an epic travel schedule as part of a travel competition I am participating in with my friends.
Check it out here: The RACE.
Here’s an entry by one of our esteemed Alumni. He talks about Vibe and how it plays an important role in both romantic and social situations.
Vibe Is King
In the aftermath of a very interesting and weird night, I sit here thinking about my past successes and failures.
Tonight’s story will be left to the Lim Kopi sessions (Alumni-Only Coffee Sessions), but I’ll just say this: Vibe is indeed the King.
We have all the techniques and strategies. Things like high points, connections, inception, sexualization, certainty… they are the tools that are really meant to help you gain the success you’ve always craved for, so that you realize that the lady likes you for who you are – your best self.
As much as I dislike saying this, experience in-field has shown me constantly that women want a finished product, not a potential. Potential is to keep you around for now, in the hopes that you become the finished product.
And when you truly realize that deep inside of you, you are free to do whatever you want. And thus, vibe becomes the overriding factor, because your mindset is that of surety and success.
Ask yourself this – how will I behave when I know for sure that success is gonna happen?
Likewise, think about how all the naturals out there get the ladies. Do they rely on strategies like sexualizing the conversation, recognizing a high point etc etc? No. They rely on vibe, and their gut. Because that is all they know. What we see as basic foundations are really just tools to help us build the real foundation – you.
You are the only factor that matters. When You are the factor that matters, the lady will help you out with your/her logistics. That is not to say you ignore it, because success is all about planning. Like they say, when you fail to plan, you plan to fail. That much still holds true. But she’ll make life easier for you, that’s for sure.
Moving forward, L asked me tonight to break down vibe for him. The phrase “vibe is king” sounds all fine and dandy, but to the blind, stumbling around in darkness thinking you are in the right direction does absolutely nothing.
I wish I could truly break it down to a T, but vibe (in my opinion) is the hardest thing you can ever break down into words. Truly, the ONLY way to fully understand this is to work with Xavier on a Gold Class like I did.
Because it is a feeling, not something you can generate with the mind (but you can effect with it). It’s just like how the ladies talk about guys who are charismatic, and when they attempt to explain it, it’s just general terms like “he helps me hold the door”.
But here’s my attempt, and please, feel free to discredit me if you feel like I am wrong.
First up, vibe is a result of mindset. Which is why I mentioned earlier that you can effect it with the mind. When you are focused on just one thing – having fun – you will find that everything else fades into the background.
I came in tonight with the mindset that all I wanna do, is help Larry get his girl. In my mind, the one thought that came up constantly was to make him look good. How do I do that? By being fun. So, I naturally focused on that. I didn’t focus on whether I’d be judged by others. I didn’t focus on how other girls will see me with my boys. I had a task, and everything else doesn’t matter.
When you start having fun, everything else opens up.
You don’t focus on impressing anyone. In fact, you focus on amusing yourself. I said the most random things tonight, things that don’t even make sense, but they work. And that’s all that matters at the end of the day – what works, not what makes sense.
Some of the shit I spouted:
“Actually I thought this was a library, and I brought a book along to read. But holy shit, it’s a club!”
“What bottle of vodka? That was water! Ya know what makes you drunk? Alcohol. And since I finished that bottle, and I am not drunk, therefore it’s water.”
Did I drop Inception? Create connections? Hit a high point and led or left? I sure did… but those are the effective by-products of my vibe. People just got drawn in, and created opportunities for me to do all of that. I didn’t have to go searching for it.
Next, a good vibe is not achievable if you are concerned with the reactions of others. The problem with a lot of us is that, we are still playing that reactive game (guilty as charged right here). When you react to someone’s reaction of your game, you are effectively focusing on them. This means you put your happiness in their hands.
But if you chose to be certain of yourself, and allow yourself to see that, all that matters is how you react to the situation, you will begin to realize that others will be convinced by your certainty. In a PUA’s language, they buy into your frame.
The repercussions of this are aplenty. I don’t wanna go into the science of it, simply because I can’t explain everything myself, but you’ll realise that it’s a stable ground that you have constructed for yourself to stand on, and others will want to stand with you, instead of against you.
This little tweak in your attitude is so fundamental to your success rate, and yet it’s so underrated because you almost never hear anyone talking about it.
With that being said, I hope I am able to give an insight into how you can improve your vibe. I am seeing more and more for myself how it might just be about the only thing you’ll ever need to fix if you wish to see instant success.